LIVING WITH A NARCISSIST

Be careful who you date and marry, because the greatest prison in the world is a home without peace.

The person you choose to share your life with will profoundly affect your happiness, well-being, and overall life trajectory.

It is crucial to understand the importance of choosing a partner who contributes to your peace, not one who drains it.

This is especially true when it comes to narcissists, who are often referred to as toxic energy vampires who are good at playing games and manipulating people.

Narcissists can be incredibly charming and convincing in the early stages of a relationship.

They are experts at creating the illusion of a perfect match, which is often referred to as “love bombing.”

During this phase, they will shower you with affection, compliments, and attention, making you feel more special and valued.

These affectionate touches and intense attention can be intoxicating and can make you think you have found someone extraordinary.

However, this is a tactic to quickly gain your trust and devotion.

Once they have secured your affection, narcissists often begin to subtly change their behavior.

They may begin to devalue you through criticism, manipulation, and control, while maintaining a facade of charm and concern.

This gradual shift can be confusing and disorienting, and make you question your own perceptions and feelings.

Narcissists are experts at gaslighting, a manipulative tactic designed to make you doubt your reality and become increasingly dependent on their approval and validation.

In relationships with narcissists, the highs and lows can be extreme.

They may alternate between periods of affection and validation and periods of coldness and criticism.

This cycle creates a rollercoaster of emotions, keeping you off balance and focused on claiming their approval.

This dynamic is emotionally draining and can lead to a significant loss of self-esteem and self-worth over time.

A home with a narcissist is often filled with tension and conflict. Narcissists thrive on control and dominance and often ignore your needs and feelings. Your inability to empathize with others can lead to a lack of authentic connection and mutual respect. Living in such an environment can feel like a constant battle, draining your energy and sapping your peace and happiness. Recognizing the signs of narcissistic behavior early in a relationship is essential to protecting your well-being. Look for warning signs such as excessive self-centeredness, lack of empathy, a need for constant admiration, and a tendency to manipulate and control. Trust your instincts and make your peace and happiness a priority. Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial when dealing with potential narcissists. In short, be careful who you date and marry because the greatest prison in the world is a home without peace. Narcissists, or toxic energy vampires, are experts at toying with and manipulating people to accommodate their own needs and desires. Understanding their tactics and remaining vigilant can protect you from entering into a relationship that drains your energy and saps your peace. Your home should be a sanctuary of love, respect, and tranquility, not a battlefield for domination and control.

Choose wisely and prioritize your peace over others.

Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not come into judgment, but has passed from death to life.

Truly, truly, I say to you, the hour is coming and now is when the dead will hear the voice of the Son of God, and those who hear will live.

For just as the Father has life in himself, so he has granted the Son to have life in himself.

And he has given him authority to execute judgment because he is the Son of Man.

Do not marvel at this, for the hour is coming in which all who are in the tombs will hear his voice and come out,

those who have done good, to the resurrection of life, and those who have done evil, to the resurrection of judgment.

John 5:24-29

HAVING GIFTS DOES NOT MEAN BEING SPIRITUAL. THE CHURCH OF CORINTH HAD ALL THE GIFTS, BUT PAUL CALLED THEM CARNAL. SPIRITUALITY IS MEASURED BY CHARACTER AND NOT BY GIFTS (GALATIANS 5.22-23)

 

 

POST PHRASE: ADDICTION KILLS NOT ONLY THE ADDICT, IT KILLS THE FAMILY AND EVERYTHING GOOD THEY HAVE.

 Vices- WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS:

Therefore, I urge you, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God—this is your spiritual act of worship.

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to prove what God’s will is—his good, acceptable and perfect will.

Romans 12:1,2

Therefore, if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.

John 8:36

He who conceals his sins will never prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.

Proverbs 28:13

Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed in him, “If you continue in my word, you are truly my disciples.

And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

John 8:31,32

You are the salt of the earth. and if the salt has lost its flavor, with what shall it be seasoned? It is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out and trampled underfoot by men.

Matthew 5:13

For it is written, As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.

So then each of us shall give account of himself to God.

Romans 14:11,12

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: for thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.

Matthew 6:13

Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

Galatians 5:1

All things are lawful for me, but not all things are expedient. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.

1 Corinthians 6:12

And do not get drunk with wine, for that is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;

Ephesians 5:18

Envying, murder, drunkenness, revelry, and things like these; of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Against such there is no law.

Galatians 5:21,23

Therefore if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.

John 8:36

No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but will with the temptation also make a way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

1 Corinthians 10:13

That ye should no longer live the rest of your time in the flesh according to the lusts of men, but according to the will of God.

For the time past of your life suffices us to have wrought the will of the Gentiles, when we walked in lasciviousness, lusts, drunkenness, revellings, carousings, and abominable idolatries:

And they think it strange that ye run not with them in the same excess of lasciviousness, speaking evil of you.

Who shall give account to him that is ready to judge the quick and the dead.

For this cause was the gospel preached also to them that are dead, that they might be judged according to men in the flesh, but live according to God in the spirit:

And the end of all things is at hand: be ye therefore sober, and watch unto prayer.

1 Peter 4:2-7

Knowing this, that the testing of your faith worketh patience.

James 1:3

Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God?

Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.

1 Corinthians 6:9-11

For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world.

1 John 2:16

Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging; and whoever errs in them will never be wise.

Proverbs 20:1

For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men,

Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world.

Titus 2:11,12

Likewise reckon ye also yourselves to be dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Therefore let not sin reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof.

Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God.

Romans 6:11-13

Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.

Matthew 26:41

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

James 4:7

Jesus answered and said to them, “Most assuredly, I say to you, everyone who commits sin is a slave to sin.

John 8:34

Drink no longer just water, but use a little wine for your stomach’s sake and your frequent infirmities.

1 Timothy 5:23

No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man. But God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but will with the temptation also make a way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man. But God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make a way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

1 Corinthians 10:13

If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

1 John 1:8,9

All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.

1 Corinthians 6:12

Do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?

1 Corinthians 6:19

For if we have been united together in the likeness of his death, certainly we shall be also in the likeness of his resurrection:

Knowing this, that our old man was crucified with him, that the body of sin might be done away with, that henceforth we should not be slaves of sin.